Struggling With the Household Code

Pen Pals Slide -April-June copyEphesians 5:21-6:9
Teaching Segment Recap
By Randell Neudorf
June 14, 2015

All through the book of Ephesians we are given words to describe God. Father, Husband, Head…

We decided to take some time to collectively come up with words to describe God in the form of scrabble letters.


We acknowledged that none of these words are a perfect fit, they all fall short. Yes God is Father, no God is not a Father, God is more than a Father. This is why we have so many different words and pictures for God, they each give us a little more of a clue to who God is.

Ephesians 5:21-6:9 is often called “The Household Code.” It is actually a fairly awkward and troublesome passage that has been used to condone slavery, wife abuse, and the mistreatment of children. We began by looking at the passage and blacking out any of the words that seem like they might be out of date, dangerous, or uncomfortable. This is what we ended up with:

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If you are unfamiliar with the passage you can read it here.

Is this even for me?

We then asked our selves “Is this even for me?” What if I’m not married? What if my parents have passed away? I don’t own any slaves and I’m not a slave myself, so what does this have to do with me?

For all of Ephesians we have been utilizing the Believers Church Bible Commentary by Thomas R. Yoder Neufeld (who I like to call Tom) says that this passage is actually for the whole church and not just relevant individuals:

“…given the emphasis on church as home and family in the earlier parts of Ephesians (eg. 2:19-22, 3:14, 4:6, 4:16), these instructions should be read as applying by implication to the church family as a whole.” (Thomas R. Yoder Neufeld, Ephesians Believers Church Bible Commentary P 253. Please Note that any citations unless otherwise noted are Tom’s words and ideas.)

That being said, a lot of this seems out of date & overwhelming. We need a lens to focus this passage through. For me that lens is Verse 21, the first verse of our reading today, Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Tom says that,

“…mutual submission is the walk of the wise, a manner of life rooted in God’s wisdom, empowered by the Spirit, and enlivened by worship.” This submission is connected to “walk as the wise in evil days (5:15-16)” (p.255)

Where is all this coming from?
Why is Paul writing all these rules for family and slaves?

“The Household Code” In Biblical times created a Pecking order for society:

  1. Husband
  2. Wife & Children
  3. Free People (former slaves)
  4. Slaves

It is important to realize that this pecking order, this Household Code was something that already existed, It wasn’t invented by Paul (the author of Ephesians) or the Church. This passage actually expands and subverst the cultural household code to include the idea Mutual Submission through the Holy Spirit. (p 255)

Both God and People function in many diverse roles all at once.

P1000365When we look at our scrabble board we see a lot of different roles and words being used in relation to God. As the community that makes up the church, we also function under many different word pictures. In this passage the church is described as a Bride, a Wife. Both men & women within the church function as wives in relation to Christ. That being said as followers of Jesus (the Husband of the Church), we are also all called to emulate Jesus’ sacrifice, in doing so become like the Husband. In relation to God we always function in multiple roles, we are all part of the Bride of Christ, we are all called to emulate Jesus our Husband. We are also called Children of God and Brothers and Sisters to the Incarnate Jesus who is both fully Human and fully God. Our own multiple roles stems straight from God’s own diversity. Christ is both our head–savior and lord–but also our goal–hope and mentor (p.257). In this passage “…two meanings of [the word] head as “authority” and “source” converge … the church is the prime beneficiary of the power of the raised and exalted Christ…” (ibid P 258).

This all turns the word “head” on “its own head.”

  1. Christ is like the authority, the brain sending signals to the nervous system of the body.
  2. also the word Head can be thought of as a mentor, the one we follow. Like a yoga or fitness instructor
  3. The head can also be thought of as the root or the bulb that the body of plant grows out of.

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Hasn’t this passage been misused to allow abuse?

Yes this passage, this household code has been extremely misused to allow abuse to go unchecked. But when that happens it is a perversion of what Paul is saying here. Here is a couple things Tom points out in his Commentary:

“A wife’s subordination to her husband is commanded only within the frame of mutual subordination.” (p 258)

“Headship means lordship, yes, but a lordship that is expressed most fully in liberating and exalting the subordinate one” (p 259)

This House hold code has been used sadly for many people as an abusive power, and yet if we are following Christ and living in mutual submission this should not be the case. The bad uses of this difficult passage is the perversion of the intended goal of mutual submission. In following Christ’s form of sacrificial headship and submission, really Paul is breaking down the existing oppressive house hold code. Christ restores and elevates His Bride, giving her a place of honour and privilege. “…love finds expression in liberation….” (ibid p261).

Jesus modeled this same submission with the apostles (his subordinates). He was their leader, rabbi, and commander. But in this authority He lovingly empowering them to go out and lead and to grow into the gifts of His own spirit. In reality “Christ’s love is deeply self giving” (p 261). Some scholars think that Patriarchy may have been too strong at the time for Paul to fully come out and talk of full mutual submission, but the seeds were planted for that exact thing and there is no reason why the church today cannot embrace that. The house hold codes that were described by Paul (even in a system of hierarchy) if lived out fully absolutely lead to full mutual submission and partnership. (P 263)

How does any of this tie in with the teachings of Jesus?

Love your wife as you love your own flesh harks back to Jesus’ words right before the story of the Good Samaritan (p 265):

One of the teachers of the Law of Moses came up while Jesus and the Sadducees were arguing. When he heard Jesus give a good answer, he asked him, “What is the most important commandment?” Jesus answered, “The most important one says: ‘People of Israel, you have only one Lord and God. You must love him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.’ The second most important commandment says: ‘Love others as much as you love yourself.’ No other commandment is more important than these.”” (Mark 12:28-31 CEV)

 Again, this expectation of mutual submission was a core teaching of Jesus and was an expectation for the whole community.

What about the Kids?

It is interesting that Children are addressed specifically. This tells us a number of things:

  1. Kids are listening, and are part of Paul’s audience.
  2. Children are an important part of the Body and have a role to play as well.
  3. We as the church are expected to be inter-generational.
    (p 269)

Tom does make a bit of a disclaimer here for the extent of this parental authority, “as in the case of subordination in the first set (5:21-33), no explicit limit is here placed on obedience (6:1). It is of course typical of terse commandments to ignore mitigating circumstances.” Two exceptions are outlined by saying “Obey parents in the Lord” as to say if they are following God’s desires. Also there is a warning to Father’s which implies that there are limits to what should be expected of children (ibid p269). One reason Fathers are directly centred out in this passage is because in the system of the day, Fathers were the sole authority over their children. (p270)

Parrables in the Park copyI just want to say one more thing about being an Inter-generational Church. Inter-generational stuff is so important. When we create something for someone that is not us (like the kids) we are practicing mutual submission. I’m not good at it, but we need to think this way. My wife Susan is amazing at it, that is why she is organizing the first week in our summer park series. Talk to her if you are looking for inter-generational ideas.

Isn’t Slavery just wrong?

No arguments here in support of slavery. Notice that when Paul is talking to Masters of Slaves the very first thing said is basically, What I just said to the slaves, the exact same thing goes for you as well. Plus don’t threaten them, and God is your judge, remember you have no special privilege in this new family (p274). Tom says “Though this is hardly a frontal attack on the institution of slavery, the exhortation, if taken seriously, is profoundly destabelizing to relationships of structural inequality.” (p274)

This New Household code is an act of Peacemaking

In a hostile environment the house hold code for Christians was a stabilizing element to be an act of peacemaking in the wider society. The freedom found in Christ could be viewed as a threat and so voluntary submission is really an act of peacemaking (ibid p280). Yes we will submit but we will subvert the patriarchal system, the slave system, the system that leads to the abuse of children. We the church will live out a new kind of submission code that echoes Christ our Lord who became a Servant.

For more Reflection on Authority and Submission:

Think of times in your life when you have been in charge of something or someone else. When have you been in authority. You might be a manager, a care giver, a baby sitter, or even the unofficial leader of your small group of friends. We all have moments in our life when we are in authority over someone else. While thinking about this authority in your own life read the verses directed to slaves and masters and see if there are any places where God might be calling you to incorporate acts Submission in your moments of Authority. Especially remember that the person in Authority (the master) is called to all the same things as the subordinate (the slave).

 Ephesians 6:5-9

Slaves, you must obey your earthly masters. Show them great respect and be as loyal to them as you are to Christ. Try to please them at all times, and not just when you think they are watching. You are slaves of Christ, so with your whole heart you must do what God wants you to do. Gladly serve your masters, as though they were the Lord himself, and not simply people. You know that you will be rewarded for any good things you do, whether you are slaves or free.

Slave owners, you must treat your slaves with this same respect [AKA all of the above]. Don’t threaten them. They have the same Master in heaven that you do, and he doesn’t have any favorites.



The Glue of Unity

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“Be always humble, gentle, and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another. Do your best to preserve the unity which the Spirit gives by means of the peace that binds you together. There is one body and one Spirit, just as there is one hope to which God has called you. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism; there is one God and Father of all people, who is Lord of all, works through all, and is in all.”
- Ephesians 4:2-6

Pen Pals Slide -April-June copyAt The Commons Gathering on May 24th, 2015, I was speaking on Ephesians 4:1-16. This passage talks a lot about Unity. In the  Believers Church Bible Commentary on Ephesians Thomas R. Yoder Neufeld talks about how something often referred to as “Meekness Values”(Humbleness, Gentleness, Patience, Tolerance) is the the Glue of Unity for Paul, the author of Ephesians (p.172).

In Ephesians 4:3 we read “Do your best to preserve the unity which the Spirit gives by means of the peace that binds you together.” Other Translations use the phrase “Bond of Peace,” a bond can also refer to a chain anything that binds things. Yoder Neufeld says “Peace is the fetter of unity. Humility, gentleness patience, and forbearance [tolerance with each other] are the links in the chain of peace.” (P 173). He goes on to say that unity is a fragile gift from God, and that it needs the support of the Holy Spirit to be maintained.

We ended our gathering with a Group Prayer for unity. We stood in a circle and read the prayer below. People were asked to volunteer to read a line that had resonance with them.

Group Unity Prayer - The Commons

I said that it is OK if there was silence as we waited for a line to be read. Awkward silence is part and parcel for asking people to volunteer and group readings are awkward at the best of times on top of that. But a rare thing happened that day at The Commons…

…there was zero awkwardness. We started reading together, and each line flew out of the mouth of each individual volunteer as if we were a single voice. It was so seamless and it had such perfect flow that immediately after we were done everyone was going “Wow!” Some one even exclaimed I think that was the most un-awkward thing that has ever happened at The Commons!” and everyone agreed.

Unity, it is beautiful even in the small things.

Seeking the Holy Spirit

Pen Pals Slide -April-June copyEphesians 3:14-21
Teaching Segment Notes
by Randell Neudorf
May 17th, 2015

“14 For this reason I fall on my knees before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth receives its true name. 16 I ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves, 17 and I pray that Christ will make his home in your hearts through faith. I pray that you may have your roots and foundation in love, 18 so that you, together with all God’s people, may have the power to understand how broad and long, how high and deep, is Christ’s love. 19 Yes, may you come to know his love—although it can never be fully known—and so be completely filled with the very nature of God. 20 To him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of: 21 to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time, forever and ever! Amen.”
- Ephesians 3:14-21 (Good News Translation)

When we read from The Bible at The Commons we are always asking ourselves:

  • What do these words have to say to us today?
  • What do they mean for us as Commoners gatheredin this City of Hamilton, on this corner of Wilson & Hughson?”

Today’s passage is a Prayer by the Apostle Paul for the Ephesian church plant, but Paul is also praying for “All God’s People,” everyone who is seeking to follow after Jesus. That includes us Commoners gathered here today.

9167It seems like everyone who has had a turn teaching for this series, has been liking our Mennonite Believers Church Bible Commentary on Ephesians by Thomas R. Yoder Neufeld. I’m going to be using this as well. Any theological ideas or historical facts that I mention are taken from this book.

There are some words from our reading that I would like to highlight. Paul starts his prayer with telling us he is on his knees. Now here is one of those historical facts. Jewish prayer was usually done standing, Paul’s falling to his knees posture is that of a prisoner or someone who is about to die. Paul is starting his prayer off by submitting to God as the ultimate authority over him.

The theme of authority continues, when Paul states that “every family in heaven and on earth receives its true name” from God. “Family” is a word picture that can also be used to think about a Tribe, Group, Nation, or Community. The idea of Naming, is really a claiming. Our author—Paul—was originally named Saul, and when God claimed Saul—with a radical conversion experience—God did so by giving Saul the new name of Paul.

I can relate to this idea of claiming someone with the giving of a name. My wife and I have started a tradition where each of our kids has a virtue given to them as a middle name. One is Hope, the other is Courage. When we adopted our youngest son he came already named, but we added the middle name of Justice. The act of giving a middle name as part of the family tradition we had created was an act of us claiming this boy as part of our family. In some ways it was even more profound then us giving him our last name.

With this act of naming in our text, there is a hint that God’s parenthood and desire for redemption knows no bounds. Paul knows this first hand because he was trying to kill everyone connected to the church and in the middle of this persecution Paul was adopted into the Christian faith by Jesus himself.

sign1The parenthood nature of God is most often described as Father. This is sometimes problematic. The word Father (like every word) carries baggage:

  • It is a Gendered term, and doesn’t express the full nature of God being neither and both Melissa-and-MicheleMale & Female.
  • Even a good human Dad makes mistakes (just ask my kids) and not all human Dad’s are even good, and so the word father may not paint the same picture for everyone.
  • Father can also have a priestly connotation. Someone who is outside or above the rest of society.

When we hear Paul’s use of the word father I want you to think “Partnership,” like a Father & Sons family business. The Parent who is so excited to include their child in the family business that they say it right on the sign.

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Randy Art 2012 (250 of 275)Next we come to a prayer for “Power through God’s Holy Spirit.” The Greek word for Spirit is the same word for Wind or Breath. The Wind has the power to move and Breath is part of the process of naming & claiming.

As I read Paul’s prayer for us at The Commons I really latched on to the words  I ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves” Without the Holy Spirit of God working on our inner selves our outer selves won’t be able to look anything like Jesus. I really feel like this is going to be a theme for us as a community over the next year—being sensitive and aware of the Holy Spirit and Strengthening & Nurturing our Inner Being.

I remember Pernell Goodyear (our first pastor) telling me that for the first 4 years of this church, all we talked about was “Community.” Every scripture, every story seemed to be pointing towards the importance of life lived in community. During our years at The Freeway Coffee House one of the big themes was “Justice.” Having a Third Space, selling Fair Trade Coffee, creating a culture of volunteerism, and so many of our people getting jobs in the not for profit sector, it was all about justice. I really believe that our next focus will be on the Holy Spirit. It isn’t that we have never talked about the Holy Spirit before, but I think that there is a feeling that we need to get more familiar with the Holy Spirit, and collectively learn to connect to the Spirit of God.

The Spirit that lives within the followers of Jesus then finds expression in the outer reality of the Church (in Community, Justice, Peace and all those good things) – and it is rooted in love– “God’s love, Christ’s Love, and the Our Love” each one is meant to effect & flow from the other.

Being more intentionally connected to the Holy Spirit connects us to a greater understanding of God’s love. Paul prays that we would grasp & understand God’s love in all 4 of its dimensions (wide, long, high, deep). Some scholars say that this points to the mystery of God’s love, we generally experience the world in 3 dimensions, and Paul uses 4 words to describe the dimensions of love, so we are going beyond how we normally experience things. To understand God’s love we are entering into mysterious territory, the territory of the Spirit.

CandlesAnother symbol used to understand the Holy Spirit is a Lamp, a Light , or a Burning Candle. When thinking of The Holy Spirit as light, we are, “acknowledging the spirit as the source of our inspiration, insight, mental illumination, revelation, guidance, and direction.”(

“Grasping the 4 dimensions is an invitation to grasp reality fully. Viewing reality through the Christ. This is not a personal reality, it is the truth through Christ for all Jesus Followers.

In the Message Bible, the end of Paul’s prayer is translated as:

“God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.”

So I don’t know where this “Holy Spirit Focused Leg of Our Collective Journey” is going to take us, but I do know it is time for us to try and enter deeper into God’s Spirit. There is something missing.

I have been thinking about this for a while, and with being exposed to some Spiritual Practices at our monthly Supper Clubs last year, and most recently this theme of listing to the Holy Spirit emerged about a month ago when I went to a Mennonite Church Eastern Canada (MCEC) church planting workshop. The morning was a typical church planting get together. It was organic, we each got to talk for 10 minutes about our church communities (telling everyone what is unique and cool about us). Then a lengthy lunch break was had so we could organically connect and start conversations that were sparked by the morning sharing. Still very typical and familiar church planting fair. Then it got a little crazy…

A guy named Jim Loepp Thiessen, the pastor of a Kitchener church plant called Gathering Church led us in a listening prayer exercise. Now you might be surprised that when a bunch of church planters get together that we don’t often have huge times of prayer. Networking, yes. Interactive worship, yes. A short prayer at the beginning and ending of the day, yes & yes. A whole afternoon dedicated to learning to listen to the Holy Spirit? No not the norm! So this is out of my comfort zone.

First, we were asked to partner with someone we don’t know. Not so strange, I’m thinking “They probably are just trying to get us to know each other better. we will share some prayer requests with each other and then pray together.” No, not so. Jim tells us that we are going to listen for “What is God’s heart for this person?” We are suppose to listen to the Holy Spirit concerning this person we have never met and then write that prayer down and share it with them. Well this is way out of my comfort zone!!! While nervously looking at the people around me I see that I’m not the only one out of my comfort zone.

The blank piece of paper is very intimidating and I feel no connection to the Holy Spirit, I can’t hear any divine words or glimpse any pictures from God, everything is blank like my page. Jim starts to speak into our fear. I can’t remember the exact words but I remember him saying something like:

  • “The reason I paired you with someone you don’t know is so that the Spirit’s voice is not over shadowed by your own thoughts. If you don’t know the person’s situation you have a better chance to flex your Spirit listening muscles. It is a small muscle that needs to be flexed with practice.” Practice, like a spiritual practice, perhaps I can enter into this.
  • “If nothing comes to mind just start writing and see where it goes.” I start writing slowly.
  • “Don’t worry, the worst that can happen is that when you share what you heard, it won’t resonate with the person.” He is right, I won’t be causing anyone irreparable damage, either the words resonate or they don’t. It is a process to try. My writing takes up speed, it is hard to know if these words are mine or God’s but I don’t have to decide that, I just need to participate in the exercise, stretch that muscle.
  • There must have still been some tension in the room because Jim told us “The Holy Spirit isn’t going to out you. God is not going to tell your partner your deepest darkest secret, that isn’t usually how the Spirit works. I’m not going to say that it never happens, just that it almost never happens. If you have been praying for something to come to light that you have been hiding in your life then God might choose to do that, but if you don’t want that to happen, it won’t.” Wow! any apprehension that was left in me was gone, and I gave myself over to listening and writing, with no worries about what my neighbour might be hearing for me.

I shared what I had written, and was amazed at the effect it had on my partner. It resonated in his life with things I had no knowledge of and he took it as confirmation of prayers and discussions he had already been having. Then I hear God’s heart for me. It was simple and point form, and profound with resonance. Some of the points talked to my personal insecurities, and some talked about my ministry life. Both of us were a little stunned and said that this was well out of our normal experience, but were happy to have both found resonance with what was said. There was a weight that lifted. A feeling that in the midst of all the details that we think we need to balance and juggle, that God is in control, and we don’t need to worry so much.

Jim wasn’t done, he then put us back into our table groups and said we are going to do the same listening prayer for one person at each table. He asked for a volunteer from each table, I never volunteer for anything. Mennonite pastors are a polite bunch so a couple people said “I’ll go but if someone else wants to, then I’m happy to let them.” Inside I want it to be me so bad, so I just name it “I’m going to be selfish, I really need it to be me.” It is agreed and we all sit there in silence, with everyone writing down what they are hearing from the Spirit for me. They speak them to me, and I hear resonance in a number of the responses.

The words spoken to me and the experience is very precious to me. I have actually started a prayer journal and pasted all these little bits of gold into it, so that I can hold on to the experience and the messages and not let them be lost, forgotten, or explained away.

I’m in no way an expert on listening to the Holy Spirit, but I know I want to learn more. I want this to be more natural, I want us as a community to find ways for this to be natural. The church is a diverse group, and the Holy Spirit finds unique expressions in each part. So I don’t want people to be afraid of the prospect of the Holy Spirit being our next collective theme. Will we become a Charismatic Church? Will we all become Mystics and live in a cave? No, I think we can learn from other traditions but that our journey will be our own.

So again not being an expert I have been going back and forth all week about whether we try a listening prayer exercise. I’ve decided to be brave and to ask you to go out on a limb with me. Now I’m not going to pair you up, we all know each other too well. I found a more solitary exercise on line.

Love Casts out Fear - Nick SI want you to look at this “Love Casts Out Fear” image By Nick Schuurman (see more of Nick’s beautiful art here), just to name that this is a scary thing, and that it is OK to feel apprehensive. That being said, I’m also going to ask you to try and flex your listening muscle. Remember the worst that can happen, is nothing will happen.

Here is An Exercise in Listening to God by Marjorie J. Thompson

  • Compose yourself in quiet.
  • Breathe deeply and gently.
  • Re-collect yourself before God.
  • Ponder a significant question you have about your life (not an abstract question).
  • Pose your question to God.
  • It may help to imagine asking Jesus.
  • Be in silence, open to what comes. Don’t try to think up an answer.
  • Allow images, impressions, words, feelings, intuitions to surface.
  • If insights arise, note them on paper

If nothing comes to you, don’t worry! Try one of these ideas later in your week:

  • Go for a walk with no agenda.
  • Pick up clay, paper and crayons, or some creative medium and just play.
  • Journal a dialogue: allow an interior conversation to unfold between you and God/Jesus/Spirit.

If something comes to you as gift, give thanks!
If you think you might have gotten a clue, pray to stay alert to further signs.
If nothing discernible happened, ask to hear/see what you need over the next few days.

Exercise taken from pp. 127 of The Way of Discernment, Leader’s Guide 
by Marjorie J. Thompson.



Together we raised $2720 for MCC

IMG_2439On May 2nd, 2015 all three Mennonite Churches in Hamilton partnered to put on a fundraiser called “A Taste of Southeast Asia.” Hamilton Mennonite Church hosted the event, The Commons provided the music with their band The Common Collective, and Grace New Life Mennonite Church cooked up a storm and provided our amazing feast. Together we raised $2, 720.00 for MCC Refugee support programs. It was IMG_2454great having all three Mennonite Churches in Hamilton partner on this. A big Thank You to everyone who volunteered, you were amazing!

Thank you to everyone who attended, we couldn’t have raised this money without you. Make sure to tell all your friends how great a time you had, so that they know what they missed out on. With all your “word of mouth” promotion and great reviews I think we could easily raise $4000 next time.

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Good Friday – 2015 Recap



good friday slide INTRO with cross

  1. good friday slide PEACEMAKINGPEACEMAKING:
  • Jesus was a peacemaker.
  • During Jesus’ time on earth He proclaimed strange things like “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” And “Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven…” Such impossible words to live out. But on the cross, so near death we see this act of peacemaking being lived out by Jesus.

Mark 15:25-32

25-30 They nailed [Jesus] up at nine o’clock in the morning. The charge against him—the king of the jews—was printed on a poster. Along with him, they crucified two criminals, one to his right, the other to his left. People passing along the road jeered, shaking their heads in mock lament: “You bragged that you could tear down the Temple and then rebuild it in three days—so show us your stuff! Save yourself! If you’re really God’s Son, come down from that cross!”

31-32 The high priests, along with the religion scholars, were right there mixing it up with the rest of them, having a great time poking fun at him: “He saved others—but he can’t save himself! Messiah, is he? King of Israel? Then let him climb down from that cross. We’ll all become believers then!” Even the men crucified alongside him joined in the mockery.

Luke 23:34

34-35 Jesus prayed, “Father, forgive them; they don’t know what they’re doing.”

  • We seek to be Peacemakers because we follow the Peacemaker who was crucified. In the face of that persecution “He Forgave His Enemies” without mumbling even one word of judgment or scorn against those that had come to see him die.
  1. good friday slide SERVANTHOODSERVANTHOOD:
  • The message posted above Jesus’ head read “King…” and although it was used ironically, it was in fact an accurate title for Jesus.
  • The problem was that Jesus was a new kind of King that was hard to recognize. He was a Servant King. A King that put other’s needs in front of his own. Jesus emphasised this servanthood when he washed his followers feet, and told them to do the same.
  • Jesus didn’t say a lot on the cross, so the few words he did say are so important to understanding the core of what Jesus is about.

John 19:25-27

24-27 While the soldiers were looking after themselves, Jesus’ mother, his aunt, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene stood at the foot of the cross. Jesus saw his mother and the disciple he loved standing near her. He said to his mother, “Woman, here is your son.” Then to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that moment the disciple accepted her as his own mother.

  • Even on the cross, Jesus showed the heart of a servant, by taking care of those around him.
  1. good friday slide SOLIDARITY.SOLIDARITY:
  • Humanity was and is on a crash course for destruction. We have messed up our lives, our relationships and our world in every conceivable way imaginable. We our masters of injustice and our own worst enemies.
  • In the midst of this God decides to become human, and lived in Solidarity with us. Our pain became His pain, our consequences His consequences, and ultimately our death sentence became His death sentence.

Mark 15:33-39

33-34 At noon the sky became extremely dark. The darkness lasted three hours. At three o’clock, Jesus groaned out of the depths, crying loudly, “Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani?” which means, “My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?”

35-36 Some of the bystanders who heard him said, “Listen, he’s calling for Elijah.” Someone ran off, soaked a sponge in sour wine, put it on a stick, and gave it to him to drink, saying, “Let’s see if Elijah comes to take him down.”

37-39 But Jesus, with a loud cry, gave his last breath. At that moment the Temple curtain ripped right down the middle. When the Roman captain standing guard in front of him saw that he had quit breathing, he said, “This has to be the Son of God!”

  • The Solidarity of the cross became so intense that Jesus’ Humanity could no longer perceive that part of the Trinity that is God the Father, God the loving Creator and God the Sustainer.
  • “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?” was screamed out by God himself in the form of human flesh. And as the rest of us humans look back at this moment, we can say “My God, My God, you died in Solidarity with me. You took on my pain, my wrong doings and my guilt and you claimed me as your own child.
  • With the death of Jesus, God the Son, the act of Solidarity was complete. God’s Story and Humanity’s Story were now one and the same.

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All scripture quotes taken from The Message Translation.
Text by Randell Neudorf
Tree Photo by Jennifer Kellner
Video & Photos of Good Friday taken by Susan S.